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 Tuesday, 18 July 2006
Tuesday, 18 July 2006 14:34:07 (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) ( )

According to the Star Tribune, our state government has chosen to avoid enshrining discrimination into the state constitution. My words, not theirs, btw.

It is kind of odd. Through my youth and into my early twenties I was rabidly anti-gay. As in "line 'em up and shoot 'em" rabid. Much like the anti-gay people of today, I was motivated by ignorant hate and fear. Bigotry, in its purest form.

All that changed when one of my best friends chose to come out to me. First, before even coming out to his parents. Why me? For a couple reasons. First, he and I were, and are, like brothers and he figured it would be at least as difficult to tell me as his parents. Second, he knew how blindly anti-gay I was at the time, maybe even moreso than his parents, and he thought I would be good practice. (yeah, I know that sounds harsh, but he's a very cautious and thoughtful person, so its cool)

So there I was, caught between my blind hatred of something of which I knew nothing, and my best friend who I love like a brother. Really there was no contest at all (which is not to say this was easy for me or him) - I immediately set about reordering my worldview to accommodate the fact that my friend was gay.

First is the acknowledgement that my friend is the same person he'd always been. This revelation changed nothing about my friend.

Second is the acknowledgement that my relationship with my friend is the same as it has always been. Well, perhaps not the same. The fact that he chose to take this incredible emotional risk by coming out to me first strengthened our friendship. There’s no way something like this could be anything other than relationship-changing (either strengthening it as happened, or breaking it entirely had the darkness and fear overtaken me in that brief moment of decision).

Third, and perhaps most sweeping, is the realization that I could no longer view gays as being some abstract and distant thing to fear and hate. Hating gays would mean hating my friend, so the choice was clear.

But to be honest, this third realization took years to internalize completely. It isn’t like you can change from being as ignorant and hate-filled as I was, to realizing that gays and lesbians are actually human overnight. Yes, I meant what I said – I viewed them as being sub-human – and I’m sure the anti-gay people today have that exact same view – deviant, not worthy of living.

The thing is, after working through to the conclusion that gays are human the rest (for me anyway) was relatively easy. I have had a very strong sense of personal integrity since… well… since I can remember. (probably since my first encounter with a black person when I was in 3rd grade – but that’s another story)

So here I sit, a strong proponent of gay rights, because they are simply human rights. And gay equality, because this is human equality.

And I find the idea of amending a constitution – state or federal – to enshrine discrimination against a group of human beings to be abhorrent. The purpose of the constitution (especially the US Constitution) is to bring liberty and freedom, not oppression. It is a document of bravery and light, not of darkness, hate and fear.


In the article is a quote:

Supporters [of the amendment] said, nevertheless, that Tuesday's vote will make a difference when people got to the polls in November.

Darn right. Some, and I would hope an ever increasing number, of us will look at who voted for to enshrine bigotry and who voted for freedom.

And of course others out there, blinded by fear and hatred like I once was, will look at the reverse: who voted to preserve the “sanctity” of marriage, and who voted to give equality to those sub-human deviants. You know, the ones who should be lined up and shot.

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Wednesday, 19 July 2006 14:56:22 (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00)
Not to mention the fact (opinion?) that the republican right is cynically using the gay issue to invigorate their voting base. hmmm... kind of like the use race discrimination to invigorate the southern vote.

Monday, 13 November 2006 01:53:23 (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00)
Well illiante,

i've searched as far as my feeble indigo-prototype brain will allow via my most mundane portals into the noosphere (i.e. cyberspace) and have come up with essentially "Nil" as to your nature, in those terms conventionally determined to be the most "essential" (i.e. height, weight, biological age, shape of genital organs, shape of genital organs of most preferred intimate partner(s), hair colour, pet's name as porn star, etc.).

The obvious - you're young (ie under 40) and American (by birth - or at least as good as - probably multigenerational "red-blooded American," not unlikely even a decendant of pilgrims from one of the first "Pilgrim Rock" landings), male and self-identified heterosexual.

Who should be lined up and shot..? Well, "Ask not for whom the bell tolls." It's always and only "just us." Which doesn't just sound like "justice" - it inevitably is - even when it seems not so...From our bipedal human Earthbound primate POV...As the Taoist sage Lao Tzu points out, "The universe is not human hearted." Universe, though, seems surely "just" - in other words, there ain't nothin' but, ultimately. Relatively however, there is more or less "just" in the "us" around here...

This implies and thus by necessity (for coherence-sake, anyways) leads to the fact that "There is STILL no such reality as 'SOMETHING'." The "just us" doesn't apply to only 3-brained bipedal (hairless, Earthbound) primates (penis-bearing, Alpha and/or otherwise) primates, but in the phrase embraced by our Native American kin, "All Our Relations" - that includes the furry, scaly, flying and crawling kinds as well as the mammalian, bipedal (and/or) primate kind....

Not only that, but "things are people too" - at least in the most Universal and Global human world Shamanism, Taoism, Hermeticism, and so far as I know, all the most archaic and enduring cosmologies of our species. Every perceptible entity is both conscious and self-determining in some (relative) sense...So much for vegetarianism saving us from causing our food discomfort upon our harvest, consumption and digestion of same!

This is even confirmed by Burtrand Russell, pre-eminent logical positivist and former occupant of the Isaac Newton Chair of Math & Physics at Oxford, who insists that for any "thing" to exist, it must "both encompass and be encompassed by" another "thing." Our Canadian wunderkind, Marshall McLuhan, arrived at a similar conclusion in his explorations of the impications of our technological media extensions that began to become so diverse and ubiquitous in the previous century.

What's all this, then?! Is this machine recording...? Yes, hello...Look at that picture. Good!

This is a Cable 23 broadcast in the public interest, to advance intelligence on Earth and Elsewhere, the sole aim of the New Age Conspiracy of which this bio-mechanical bodymind is an Agent (evidently and quasi-officially). Follow the good Dr. Tim's advice, and be polite: JUST SAY 'NO THANK-YOU' TO DEATH AND STUPIDITY!!!

I am a married gay man with a license to grow marijuana. Not only that, but I live with my extra-marital lover as well as my same-sex spouse, in the archetypal Canadian trailer park (only ours is on the Left Coast - hence the utopian spin, perhaps...).

If you wish to make sense of today's so-called "world," I wish you all the best. If you intend to MAKE THE FUTURE (which I am assured is UP FOR GRABS, then you could do worse than pursue this phantasmagorical broad-sheet of mine.

I did have a point but it has been dulled by the medium of phonetic language and etc.

Do enjoy, and God-S bless.



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